In Witchcraft we remember all our friends, whether they are currently incarnate or not and also include those who inhabit alternate realms such as elementals and the Faery folk.
There is a welcoming chant in some traditions which calls in all these spirits to join our celebrations, and includes the line:
"We call upon those who are yet to be."
This recognises those spirits who are unborn, for one reason or another, so Samhain is an ideal time to remember those spirits who have not managed to come to birth in this world.
Many women and families have experienced the loss of an unborn child, whether through miscarriage, termination or through an inability to conceive, or even through a phantom or Fairy pregnancy. Even though we do get on with our lives, we never forget these experiences, and those spirits do not forget us either. So today is an ideal time to welcome them to our festivities.
Light a white candle, or a pure beeswax one, and place around it three black stones, three haematites or even three glass globs. These stones represent the tears shed for the unborn, so use which seem right to you - three stones found in your garden will be fine.
Now light some incense, something floral, or a favourite, I would use some of our lovely Om Nag Champa for this.
Sweet spirit who we are yet to see
We remember and honour you.
We ask you to come and be with us, in friendship and love
To share our food and our fireside, and the magic of Samhain.
On this night which is between the worlds,
You are welcome